I remember one of the updates bugging out if you were in the middle of any event, that would explain that bug. Try reloading a back up save and check if it’s before that event? Or finish that event in the old version, save and the transfer save to the new version.
For your connection issues, if you haven’t already done the above, then try that(because it worked for a few users).
If you already did that, then try
- adding the game as an exception to the firewall.
- restarting your mac?
- Or this?
These are all the suggestions that you can try, one among the above worked for most mac users, hope it works out for you too.